Why is it that so many people refuse to feel their feelings? I’ve been a victim of this phenomenon so I know its ramifications. We discount what we are going through because it doesn’t seem to have the earth shattering consequences that other people’s struggles do. We aren’t supposed to compare our successes to other people’s so why do that to our struggles?
“I shouldn’t feel sad. I don’t have it as rough as that person”. We mumble to ourselves in an attempt to make ourselves feel better and all it does is make us feel worse. We need to actually DEAL with our feelings so we don’t end up DWELLING on them. And you can’t deal with something if you slap a fake smile on your face and pretend that you are okay when you aren’t.
Life hurts! Big shocker, right? Maybe you aren’t battling homelessness or a life threatening disease, but when your heart hurts, it hurts! Ignoring the raw, bad emotions won’t make them go away. They just sit there under the surface until they flair up at the most inopportune times.
Psalm 147:3 says “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds”. The bible doesn’t specify the kind of wound or the depth of the cut. Should we really try to limit his healing grace by thinking that our woes are too insignificant for him? Or should we lean into the comfort of his presence and embrace the love and compassion he embodies to help us through whatever thing we are going through? I think maybe the second choice is the better choice.
I am a Christian, a wife, a mom, and a part-time basket case who wants to be a full time writer.