Being human hurts.
Birth pains, growing pains, hunger pains, the list goes on and on. Some people get caught up in the pains and fail to see the joys. Of course there is pain that is normal, it’s the accentuation of pain that makes things difficult. How often do we fixate on the small coffee stain on our sleeve (you know the one that no one else knows is there) and miss the conversation with the person we have in front of us.
How often do we let an old pain resurface and in our attempts to squash it, lash out at someone else in an unexpected way in turn causing more pain. When we focus on our own selves and our own pains too much, we become like a giant black hole floating around sucking in the light and joy from those around us.
Being human hurts, but being human is more than that. We must take the time to heal our hurts so they don’t become the darkness that chokes out our light. The phrase “hurting people hurt people” is so true. I have been one of those hurt people that has hurt another, I don’t want to be that anymore. I can let the chagrin of past wrongs that I have perpetrated against an unsuspecting person stymie me in to complete inaction, or I can move forward toward healing. I choose the latter.
Healing takes time and energy and a lot of hard work, but it is worth it. When we change our pains into productive lessons that help us grow, the healing process can start.
Jesus meets everyone where they are, but he doesn’t want us to stay there. If he can help someone like me out of the mire and darkness, he can help anyone. Sometimes I still fall into the old thought pattern and cry over the wasted decades that I spent deep in despondent self-pity, but the hope I once thought was only for others is strong enough to save even me. Like the woman by the well in John 4, I am amazed and freed when Jesus tells me that he sees all the wrongs, but still loves me.
Healing hurts can hurt the healing. But the alternative is a far greater pain.
I am a Christian, a wife, a mom, and a part-time basket case who wants to be a full time writer.