Almost a year ago I sat down for coffee with a friend, and I decided to continue on in this side of eternity for a little bit longer. Today I had the opportunity to help someone in the same way. At least, I hope that our encounter was similar to my choice of life.
Struggling with depression, life-controlling issues, or other traumatic events is difficult. It can be made even harder when there is an atmosphere of condemnation in the conversation. Jesus does not want us to be lost in our sin and if we see a fellow believer lost in sin we are to confront them, but when someone is down and desperate, we shouldn’t kick in an added measure of judgement.
When I felt gross, disgusting and desperate, the last thing I needed was my best friend texting me that she no longer wanted to hang out with me. I needed forgiveness and the fullness of Christ. Coffee with a sister in Christ helped me realize that I was more than the sum of my past mistakes. I was more than my failings. I was more than I thought I was. Christ loved me then and he loves me still.
It is so easy to offer suggestions instead of a shoulder. It is so easy to point out a flaw than to point to the Lord. It is so easy to judge instead just being there.
I pray that any who have fallen into the trap of despair reach out to someone. Someone was there for me in my unexpected moment of need and I made it through! I am not the kind of person who asks for help easily, but I am so happy I did! I can’t imagine not living in the abundance of God right now. I took the risk and reached out, and I was embraced by grace. I pray that my friend from coffee this morning continues to reach out when she needs it.
God made us to love each other and to love him. By allowing someone to help us, we allow the power of God to flow. We are meant to be funnels of God’s mercy, not bowls of disapproval. I want his love to flow through me, not damn it up with logs of judgement!
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. Proverbs 17:17
I am a Christian, a wife, a mom, and a part-time basket case who wants to be a full time writer.